Expectations

 So, a friend of mine suggested me this topic for my Blog. And guess what I've so much to say about this😂

As a Human being we always have this tendency to expect something. If we are giving out help we'll expect help in return. We are giving out support we'll expect that in future. And so on. But thing is that...It is said Expectations always hurts. 

This statement is true partially if not fully. I'll tell you why. I've my personal experience on this. Times were when I was expecting certain things from certain people and I wasn't getting that. Previously I thought maybe I'm over expecting. Just because I was giving so I was expecting I should get back too. But that wasn't the case. Things were getting worse.  I tried to engage myself in self care activities like painting and poetry and all. But it wasn't helping me. I communicated very camly with the people from whom I was expecting certain so and so behavior and the reply I got was don't expect anything from us. That hurted me very badly. If you say whats one thing you'll never forget, this will be the one. I talked with my mentors and some seniors regarding this and their reply was just stop expecting.  At that time it felt impossible to me. And it is. Because even if you made up your mind somewhere down the mind maybe subconsiously you'll expect that.

Same was case with me. But then if you're constantly giving something and not getting any appreciation or acknowledge in back then it's time to remove yourself from that situation. This is where the Boundaries come into picture. I'm not saying hate them or make things make worse for them. Our target is our own mind. Just distance yourself from anything which disturb you physically and mentally. I did the same. Ofcourse it isn't easy at all. At times I was guilty about it. I was feeling bad. But we can't be bitter Just because of few people with whom we can't get along. Understand this we're not everyone's cup of tea. At times I started doubting myself too. I used to think am I wrong? Have I done anything to deserve this ? Am I that bad? These questions started popping up. In my head. And trust me nothing hurts more than self doubt.

This also doesn't mean you've to stop giving or stop being a good person. Just change the people who receive your Kindness.  I did the same. And suprisingly tables turned around. I wasn't expecting this time because of the Previous experiences that I got. 

But this time I was seen, heard and got acknowledged too.  Sometimes we're Just stuck with wrong things. We just need to get out of it. And thing is that make peace with it. Accept it. You don't need to hate anyone. You don't need to be patient with the one who's being rude to you. Just give what you get. Reciprocate same energy. Things do change. Try Once.